Thursday, 17 August 2017

The Bigger Picture: Poem Alert

                                                            "You're too shortsighted
                    To see beyond the wall
                     Even though tall
                     It could still fall

                    You're too shortsighted
                    To see beyond the mountain
                    Is a great big fountain
                    That is for now, hidden
                    You're too shortsighted
                    To see the rain
                    Isn't actually a pain
                    But could be of gain"

This is an extract from a poem of mine. This poem pretty much captures all I want to explain today. We all pass through trials and temptations and during those times its very easy to become short sighted. We loose sight of His love. Its hard to understand what's happening, why its happening or perhaps how exactly it happened. It is in times like these we are meant to trust God, not to understand, but just trust. I have discovered that in trusting there's probably not much 'sense' in it. But you just have to. Why?

Psalm 118:8 : It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man.

So when times get tough, quit looking for love or understanding in all the wrong places but run into his arms. Now there are somethings you have to understand
  1. Understand that you cant understand  click here to read more on that.
Proverbs 3:5 : Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

     2.  God has good intentions for your life just trust Him
Jeremiah 29:11 : For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

    3.  The trials and temptations you go through aren't to weaken you or because God hates you, they are meant to make you stronger, wiser and out of Love. So don't look at it as God punishing you, see it as your father preparing you for something greater. I love what a preacher at a local church where I formerly lived said. He said the Greater the trial the Greater the victory.

Romans 12:12 : Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

James 1:12 : Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.

Its easier to see the wall than imagine what's beyond the wall and realize that no condition is permanent. Its easy to mourn your present situation than hope for what seems impossible. Many times we see our pains and sufferings as punishment from God as because of our sins. But God knows we aren't perfect. That we make mistakes. Now this is not an excuse to sin, we are to strive for righteousness, strive to be like our Savior, Jesus.

Galatians 6:7 : Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 
1 Corinthians 11:1 : Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.

But what if we were to perceive pain from a different perspective, see it as what it truly is. The trials and sufferings we go through are all part of God's plan. He loves us very much and has our best interest at heart. Don't be shortsighted that you fail to realize that the 'rain' isn't just 'pain' but could be of 'gain'.

1 Corinthians 10:13 :No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

James 1:2-4 : Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

I encourage you today not to be shortsighted but look at the bigger picture, which includes not only the mountain that seems impossible to overcome but a fountain. Look at that  tall wall and have hope for it can fall, just keep believing. Don't just see the rain as pain or suffering or punishment, for rejoice as it is of gain.


Wednesday, 16 August 2017

More: A Christian Perspective on Modesty

Lydia Jane

Greetings to my family in Christ,

I am writing today to address the topic of modesty for young women. I have addressed the issue of modesty somewhat when I wrote a post responding to a meme I saw that I did not agree with. ( This time, however, I would like to show a more in depth perspective of modesty for the young Christian woman specifically. Some of you who may be reading this might be thinking, “Here we go, another let’s tell women about modesty post.” Perhaps you may even be asking, “Why don’t these Christian bloggers ever address modesty for men?” For those who are thinking the former that this is just another modesty post, I hope you will not dismiss the issue as it will always be an issue as long as the world is fallen, and for those who wonder why the modesty issue is not being addressed for men, there are those who do or have addressed that topic, but for now I will be addressing the young women, as I have had to learn the lesson of modesty myself as a young lady in Christ. I thank you for taking the time to read this, and I pray God uses this blog post to strengthen and encourage you.

Modesty in the modern western world has a reputation of being an old fashioned concept that has stuck around primarily for the religious folk. Ironically, from what I have seen in my experience, those who believe that it is old fashioned still push the concept as the thing “good girls” do when raising their own daughters. Some are moving away from that trend, but many in the secular society still prefer their precious baby girls to hold to some idea of decency through modesty. While this may be the view of the world, as Christians we are to have a different view of modesty in light of God’s grace to us. Unfortunately, do to societal pressures we often have a hard time viewing modesty for what it truly is. Yet, I believe that as long as we are truly striving to be more like Christ we can always capture the true beauty of real modesty.

So what is modesty?

Often when we think of modesty we typically think of clothing styles. Yet, true modesty is more than that. Clothing (though how we dress is important) is actually just a fragment of all modesty entails. For us Christians, modesty is more than clothing. In fact, I believe the first thing we should recognize (as it has helped me) is that modesty has a source. Modesty for the believer is a calling on our lives from God. I am sure that many of you who have been raised with Christian backgrounds are familiar with all of the rhetoric concerning why you should dress modestly according to such and such passage. However, if you are anything like I was then it feels like a burden when you get to see all of your female secular role models, and girls around your age, dressed in ways that would get you in trouble with your God fearing elders. Yet, what helped me was when I began to see that it was not just a matter of some passage of scripture said such and such, but realizing that the scripture is the very word of God, and therefore God is the source, and God’s commands are not burdensome. In fact the commands He has given us are an act of His love, and if we remember that then the things He tells us to do is because He loves us, it makes it easier for us to follow Him.

1 John 5:2
For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments; and His commandments are not burdensome.

Following God seems like a burden in any respect when we forget that love is the driving force behind our Christian walk. God began that love in our lives, by demonstrating His love towards us by suffering and dying for us while we were still sinners. He was willing to sacrifice His life for us to save us. For us Christians we should always strive to remember that love that saved us in times when it feels hardest to follow what He said, including when it comes to modesty. We should think if God can sacrifice His life in love for us, we should be willing to be modest in our walk with Him especially if we say we love Him. So, the source of our modesty is our God who loves us.

The second thing we should note about modesty is that true modesty proceeds from the heart. It is a calling of God on our lives to be modest, but modesty also shows where our hearts are. I can recall times in my life where when I was most rebellious modesty slipped from my hands. I may not have been as immodest as some women of the world, but I definitely was not modest according to the standards of modesty I knew. It is easy for me to claim all sorts of reasons why I chose to not be modest, but in hindsight my lack of modesty really spoke of the time I was at a real struggle in my faith. My mind just was not focused on God, and so modesty was not really something on my mind at all. However, when I look at outfits from times I follow Christ from my heart I always noticed one thing, modesty mattered to me. Even if I did not get it right, I still cared that I did. I realize modesty is not about clothing alone, as I mentioned before, but choosing modest clothing is often a reflection of our faith as Christian women. I can say that at least for myself personally. When I consider what I wear I often ask myself questions such as “Will this intentionally cause men to stumble?” “If I wear this what will this say to people about Christ?” I care about these things, because it is a sin to intentionally cause others to stumble (Matthew 18:6), and how people perceive Christ because of me matters. I do not want to intentionally be the reason people mock God or His people. God gave us modesty as a sign of our dignity in Him.

Those are essentially the two major components of modesty. Modesty is a command from God’s heart, and an act of love for others that proceeds from our hearts.

So how does clothing play into modesty?

As I mentioned earlier clothing is a part of modesty. It is not all there is, but it is important. Clothing ultimately is the reflection of the heart, so the question then becomes “What do we wear?” Now there are some groups of believers who believe women should only where dresses, and some who are okay with pants outfits, others say anything that is at least knee length and unrevealing is acceptable, and the list goes on. So what do we do with a multitude of information?

I think first we need to consider that modest clothing has a cultural aspect to it. What is considered modest can vary from culture to culture, and it is often determined by what is considered sexual or not. Here in the west when we see clothing as modest there is a general agreement that our modesty covers the whole torso. There are places in the world where modesty is a lot less in covering. In fact, I remember learning of a tribe of people that were completely naked, but assigned modesty as making sure the opening of a female’s genitalia was covered when she was sitting down. I personally would not agree with that, and I would argue that that is evidence of how far mankind has fallen, but I digress as that is another topic for another day. So, back to my point there is some cultural aspect to modesty. In the United States, where I live, we can see modesty shift from group to group. Navigating all of these different things seems difficult, but I believe it is best if I come from personal experience when it comes to how I have navigated modesty and perhaps it will help you.

When it came to modesty in my life there seemed to be two sets of modesty; 1) Church modesty, how I should perceive modesty in the church setting and 2) Home and social modesty, how I should perceive modesty in pretty much any setting that was not church.

When I was younger, like most young people, my elders were the primary enforcers of my dress code; and I feel it is important to take note of that first. At the time, my family went to churches where dresses were the standard for girls. I remember I had developed a love hate relationship with dresses, because while dresses were pretty and made me feel just as pretty for a little girl, I was chastised for running around and playing in them. I laugh looking back on it, but at the time it irked me to no end. Yet, when I was not at church I was allowed to wear pants. I liked my pants, because I could play in them without getting in trouble. In the summers I used to even wear shorts. (I stopped wearing shorts when I grew older, because my figure alone was enough to turn those things into a scandal.) I remember most tops were acceptable the only rule was to be careful not to show any cleavage or my midriff. The cleavage rule was easy to follow, but I struggled with the midriff rule because I liked the look of crop tops and belly shirts. (I am not sure if the official name of that style was belly shirts, but I remember that is what we called it when girls tied up their shirts in a knot.) That is how it was for me, a fight against culture that my parents were trying to instill. It wasn’t until after I came to Christ for myself, and started to develop a love for God that I started to look at modesty in a different light. I remember I stopped fighting with the love of the cropped look, but I still had an issue with always wearing dresses to church. Then came the day, I was a teenager at this time, my family started attending a new church and my parents told me I didn’t have to wear dresses if I didn’t want to. I remember I couldn’t put on jeans fast enough for church service. I finally was free to play games with others after service. It was great! Yet, this became what was the first time I entered the world of a morally gray modesty; where my church and social modesty were fused into one. Then there were days when my family visited other churches and they wanted to encourage me to put on dresses again, and I wondered “Why?” I had finally been freed from having to, and that showed me I did not need to where dresses to be engaged in my faith life at church. My parents would try to explain at these other churches they preferred a more formal modesty, and all I could think was I would listen to them, but that to me was just stupid.

It wasn’t until sometime later that I realized the issue of conforming to various modesty styles for different groups was a God honoring thing. While my wearing jeans was not sinful for me, it was a matter of Christian liberty, it could potentially harm the faith of others. In Romans 14 the same issue had already been addressed. While the issue of modesty is not specifically mentioned in that passage, it does call us to not pass judgment on the opinions of those who are different in their thoughts on cultural engagement, which I clearly did by thinking they were “stupid”, and by thinking my wearing jeans was better than their desire for dresses. Instead we are called to do as they would, so that we do not hinder their faith in Christ. I learned I was not better than the dress wearers, and that they were doing what they could to grow in Christ and obey Him just like I was.

That is how I learned the answer to what do I wear. The answer is always whatever is befitting the occasion that will not intentionally cause others to stumble. It is an act of love for all. In doing so I am saying, I care enough about your faith that I place you over my desire to wear certain styles.

Philippians 2:3-4
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

God bless you all in the love of Christ,

Lydia Jane

About the author:

Lydia Jane is a Christian blogger from the USA. You can follow her blog at  

Monday, 14 August 2017

Songs To Boost Self-Confidence plus My Fight For Self-acceptance

If there's anything I suffered from badly it was lack of self-confidence. For a long time I struggled to see myself as beautiful. Growing up I was a very chubby kid and because of this I felt like an outsider, odd and I resented myself. I felt ugly and the spiteful comments of some people confirmed it. Even though my parents saw me as very beautiful I never did. I wished I looked like everyone else. I wished I wasn't so fat or so short. To make matters worse came pimples. This just had to crown it all. What could be worse, being one of the first in your class to start having pimples. Having your peer mates shout 'Eeeww!!!' when you were in their midst. Staring at others be so free and comfortable in their skin and wondering why I wasn't  like them. Wondering why I couldn't act like the others.

I've come a long way in discovering who I am. I'm still discovering anyway. But I've realized if there's anything I am, its certainly not being ugly. It of course took a long time to realize this. It took years of staring at a mirror and trying to convince myself. It took a lot of data subscribing to confidence boosting sites. It took a deeper relationship with Jesus. In which I could tell Him of my every pain and battle.

I'm glad to say that I've passed that phase in my life. This is not to say I don't feel uncomfortable when I'm around people. Nope I still do sometimes. But now each time I hear a voice that tells me how ugly or weird or different I am from everyone else, I'm not afraid to shout back at that voice saying:

I still feel  awkward when I walk down the street, but this time not with doubt in my heart. Even if my mind might take a while processing the fact of who I am, my heart doesn't. My heart is sure and spirit convinced and that's what keeps me walking down that street.

Music has helped me a lot through these times of self-realization and it still does.
This is a list of songs that made me feel a whole lot better when I felt a whole lot unhappy:

  1. Imagine Me by Kirk Franklin
  2. No Better U by V.Rose
  3. Not So Average by V.Rose
  4. I Know Who I Am by Sinach
  5. Stay High by Jonathan McReynolds
  6. Lovin' Me by Jonathan McReynolds
  7. Headphones by Britt Nicole
  8. Ready Or Not by Britt Nicole feat. Lecrae
  9. Not Backing Down by Blanca
  10. Be All Right By KB
  11. Find Your Way by KB
  12. Smile by Jonathan Mcreynolds

Women After God's Heart Playlist

Made this playlist on the music app about a week ago. It consists of songs by Christian women about being after God's Heart or better still having a longing or desire for God, as well as songs by Christian women who I believe through their works have shown their passion for Christ.
note: Its not limited to a specific genre

  1. After You by Britt Nicole
  2. Through Your Eyes by Britt Nicole
  3. More What I Wanted by Cece Winas
  4. Alabaster Box by Cece Winas
  5. In Awe by Hollyn
  6. Love With Your Life by Hollyn
  7. Fill A Heart by Tori Kelly
  8. Hollow by Tori Kelly
  9. I'll Be Alright by Beckah Shae
  10. Legacy by Beckah Shae feat. Crystal Lewis
  11. Lord I Give You My Heart by Darlene Zschech
  12. I Lift My Voice In Adoration by Darlene Zschech
  13. Surrender by Blanca
  14. Not Backing Down by Blanca
  15. Don't Want To Live For Me by Moriah Peters
  16. Brave by Moriah Peters
  17. Because Of Who You Are by Juanita Bynum
  18. You Are Great by Juanita Bynum
  19. Way Maker by Sinach
  20. More by Sinach
  21. Surrender by V.Rose feat. Flame
  22. Take A Broken Heart by V.Rose feat. Derek Minor
  23. Hold Me by Jamie Grace
  24. Beautiful Day by Jamie Grace
  25. Seattle by Mary Mary
  26. Shackles by Mary Mary
  27. Adore by Jaci Velasquez
  28. I Am Not Alone by Kari Jobe
  29. Break Every Chain by Tasha Cobbs
  30. Smile by Tasha Cobbs

Love Songs by Christian musicians

Don't you just love love? So beautiful, I find myself falling in love with love. Crazy right?
Anyway here's a list of love songs from my favorite Christian musicians:

  1. Beautiful Life 2 (Mine) by Trip Lee
  2. Desire by Gawvi feat. Darrein Safron
  3. Love You Better by Derek Minor feat. JC
  4. California Lovers by Tori Kelly
  5. Don't Wanna Wake Up by Capital Kings
  6. Got You On My Mind
  7. Electric Love by Britt Nicole
  8. Cant Live Without by Hollyn
  9. My Little Baby by Canon feat. DJ Official
  10. Nobody Love by Tori Kelly
  11.  Love Go High by Derek Minor feat, Chrisette Michelle
  12. Lights Go out by KB feat. Blanca and Justin Ebach
  13. Fallin In Love by Britt Nicole
  14. Be With You by Tedashii feat. Lester 'L2' Shaw
  15. All I Need Is You by Lecrae
  16. I Can Wait by Trip Lee
  17. 808 by Tedashii
  18. All My Love by Hollyn
  19. First Heartbreak by Tori Kelly
  20. I was Made for Loving You

Thursday, 3 August 2017

Teenager After God's Heart

I've made a decision to be a teenager after God's heart. You can make that life changing decision now. You don't have to advanced in age to serve God faithfully.

Ecclesiastes 12:1 Remember also your Creator in the days of your youth, before the evil days come and the years draw near of which you will say, “I have no pleasure in them”

Who is a Teenager After God's Heart?
1.  One who is seeking the will of God
Your life will be sweeter, more productive if you know God at this age. Ask: What am I wired to do?
It is the will of God that you will excel. Stop following the crowd. You are programmed to do something. Find it out. This is the age of decision. Any decision you make today as a teen will either make or mar you. Your fulfillment in life is in finding, knowing and doing the perfect will of God.

2. One seeking the pleasure of God
How happy is God in that thing you are doing? Is God smiling at that thing you are doing? A teenager after God's heart seeks to please God. We have a biblical example, David.

Acts 13:22: After removing Saul, he made David their king. God testified concerning him: 'I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.'

Whatever it is you do, seek God's pleasure in it.

3.  One seeking the kingdom of God
Matthew 6:33: But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

Kingdom seekers are great achievers. Let us become addicted to the kingdom. If you seek after the kingdom of God, you will find it and be satisfied. There is joy, friendship, oneness, money, fun (yes even fun). Seek God early

4.  One seeking to belong to the family of God with his talent, strength, gift and money.

Friday, 21 July 2017

Sweet Tracks ğŸŽ¶

I recently created this playlist on the music app on my laptop. Its titled Sweet tracks'. Come to think of it I think I should have shweet tracks..haha (Trip Lee lover o😍).

Here is my list:
1. Forgiveness by TobyMac feat. Lecrae
2. Start Over by Flame feat. NF
3. Loud and Clear by Da T.R.U.T.H feat. Jon White (of Capital Kings)
4. Just Like You by Lecrae feat. J.Paul
5. Finally free by Lecrae feat. J.Paul
6. All That Matters by Colten Dixon
7. Love Broke Thru by TobyMac
8. Can You Hold Me by NF feat. Britt Nicole
9. Lights Go Out by KB feat. Blanca and Justin Ebach
10. Run Wild by For King and Country feat. Andy Mineo
11. Expensive by Tori Kelly
12. Insomniac by Trip Lee feat. Andy Mineo

4 signs of Spiritual Maturity

Are you spiritually mature? And what exactly is spiritual maturity?

I’ll start by defining: Spiritual maturity is achieved by becoming more like Jesus. It is a process that begins when a person accepts Jesus as their personal Lord and savior. Simply put, it is being mature spiritually, not a physical growth, but a spiritual growth that reflects in your attitude, behavior and character.

The Christian faith is likened to that of a child. He that has the Son of God has life. If you are born you must grow. So also, if you are born again you have the potentiality to grow in the Christian faith.

Is Spiritual Maturity by the number of years you’ve spent in the church? Or by age?

Spiritual maturity has nothing to do with the number of years you have been born again or by your physical age. You can be advanced in age but still be spiritually young or a baby in Christ.

How do I know I’m growing in my Christian experience?

Here are five signs that show a person is spiritually mature;

NOTE: In the Christian experience, no one is fully grown. It is until you meet with the master face to face.
1. Mature Christians make every effort to build on their faith: He/she is not complacent. There is a zeal, a hunger, a thirst. He/she wants to grow. He is never satisfied with what he has achieved. Growing here means be intimate with God. It is a hunger for intimacy with God.

 Psalm 42:1 : As the dear pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. (NIV)

During prayer session he does not boast. A lot of times we take God’s grace for granted and misbehave in his presence. A mature Christian is truthful to God. There is humility.

What kind of relationship do you have with God?

2 Peter 1: 5-9 : To your faith add virtue (character); and to your virtue, knowledge (How much of the bible do you know?); add to your knowledge temperance, (self-control); and to temperance, patience (perseverance); and to patience, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness (how do you address and relate to people?); and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measures, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of Christ. But if anyone does not have them, he is near-sighted and blind, and has forgotten that he has been cleansed from his past sins.

2. Mature Christians are slow to hold on to grudges and quick to forgive: This is because there is something in them that condemn their conscience to hold grudges against others. The mature Christian learns to consciously forgive others to release the burden and break free from the chains of not forgiving.

You are punishing yourself holding a grudge

3. Mature Christians stop pointing out everyone else’s sins and start confessing their own: Stop being a spiritual police to others and look inward (at yourself).

The change you want in others should actually begin with you!

Matthew 7:1-5 : “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (NIV)

4. Mature Christians watch their words and they know when not to speak: A lot of times we lose control and say relevant and irrelevant words. It is not every discussion that you contribute to. If you say all that is in your heart, you will talk anyhow.

How do you talk?

Ephesians 4:29 : Do not let unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helping for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit all those who listen.

Be mindful how you crack jokes

NOTE: This is not to say that there are only four signs that mark spiritual maturity, there are probably others. These only the ones I’m aware of.

Friday, 7 July 2017

Who is Jesus to you? GOD IS HERE!

If I asked you who Jesus is to you, what would you say?

I guess a lot of start imagining a holy dude with halo lights lolllz.

I'm reading this book titled, 'God is here' by Steve Case. I love something mentioned in the book. God isn't just in the sky and church or holy mountain. He is in your room, in your mirror, your books, your pots and pans. He's not just a God of heaven and earth, he's in the 'pots and pans and things' . Haha..know your like what? How can I say that our almighty, the creator of heaven and earth is in the pots and pans and things?

Let me explain something to you. God is omnipresent which means he is everywhere, so if he's in the church, he is also in your room. Understand?

When you look at God as only the God of big things you probably won't notice him in the little things.

I strive, hunger and thirst for a deep relationship with God. And one of the things I do is to talk to him not only about the big things but the little things as well.

I pray you come to see that God is here. You don't have to climb the tallest mountain to feel him, he's already there.

Friday, 23 June 2017

Understand that you cant understand

A lot of times we ask ourselves why things didn't go the way we planned. Why we didn't get the things we asked for. We question God. Question him for our mistakes, our stupidity. Not realizing that this our God is not like ours. He aint silly like us. He's ever faithful.

Deuteronomy 7:9, ESV Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations

Is true things get really had at times. Especially when our expectations aren't met. it sucks I know. do you know something funny we do. We think we know God so well. We think we are familiar with his ways. we're like, "Okay I didn't get the job as a secretary. God probably wants me to get it at a bigger company." then what happens when that didn't happen? haha. Don't be mad at me oo..I know it hurts. But get this we can't understand this our God. His ways and thoughts aren't like ours.

Isaiah 55:8, NIV "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD.

He knows why things didn't work the way you wanted. And why you didn't get the things you wanted. He has better plans for you. Trust me, or better still trust Him!

Jeremiah 17;7-8, NIV
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord,
whose confidence is in him.
They will be like a tree planted by the water
that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
and never fails to bear fruit.”

Stop worrying my friend. or trying to understand. Understand that you can't understand and trust the Lord.

Proverbs 3:5-6, NIV Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

The Bigger Picture: Poem Alert

                                                            "You're too shortsighted                     To see beyond the wall...